MURDER !! BLOODY MURDER !!!


I am going to kill these guys if i ever lay my hands on them ! TRUST ME !!

When we were happy...

Ever thot about it ? when was the last time u felt really happy ??
happy as when a kid gets a toffee or a toy...
or when a somebody becomes a dad...
or when it rains and the kids dance in the street....

No..dont get me wrong..it's not one more rant/crib on "finding oneself" etc...i think i am thru with that...gotta be a little materialistic now i feel(a little..not too much)...so gujju-fundas zindabad ! ;-)

A friend and I were chatting over some "refreshments" ;-) when he said
"Macha..I plan to get married when i go home next da..." he's going home next week...
He said it so casually that it left me at a loss for words..after a few more rounds of "refreshments" i asked him "why ??"(he's a coupla years younger than me and my "PERSONAL" opinion is that we are not mature enuf to handle marriage....yet...;-)

I was prepared for the usual-"I am in Love".."Family pressures"(never did understand that-do the parents try to bully their kids to get married ? Whats their gain from it ?hmm..)..etc..But I,as most of us would,was surprised by the answer he gave...

He said something in tamil which I am trying to translate to the best of my abilities here:
"Life has become monotonous da...
get up..office..get back..sleep..get up..office..and so on...I am not happy..
I think I need to do something to spice it up...so...
professionally i am satisfied with what i am doing..
i think i need to spice up my personal life..
no girl has fallen in love with me so far(the speaker has gone through his fair share of heartbreaks inspite of and probably bcos of overzealousness on some occassions)..so...i thot i should get married"....

Hmm..Interesting isnt it ?? OUT OF THE ORDINARYILY STUPID...but..interesting ....
I along with the able support of my roomies tried my best to convince him of the dangers of couplehhood...but no...he almost convinced us to do vice versa !!
;-)

Points in our favour were :
1.YOU ARE TOO YOUNG !!
2.YOU ARE EDUCATED AND INDEPENDENT ! Nows the best time to live the life and u want to spoil it all by settling down..28-30 is a better age to get married...
3.you are not ready...trust me all of us aren't !! Do you have any idea about the kinda responsibilites that come alongwith a companion for life !!
(Btw,that still psychs me out...A COMPANION FOR LIFE !! I mean would you want to wake up and see the same face everyday??always ?? what do people who are married for say 3-4 years talk about when they find sometime together ?
"What did you eat ? Upma ? Hmm..I had idli sambhar..Good nite...and...Dont u dare keep your hand on my side of the bed !!!!"
or
"Your opinion on the OPEC's Brent Crude price hike and it's effect on Latin american economies" ??)
4.Marriages happen once..(ok..thats what God ordained...man changed it...but..) they happen once for each person and it's special...Dont ever regret that you got married a little too early and didnt do things you would have done otherwise...Believe me..it's much worse than the other way round...
5.SHUT UP MAN !! let me listen to floyd and enjoy the booze ! girls and marriage are a topic best dealt with when NOT sloshed..

In return..i must say...he came up with some very valid although logically twisted points...
1.I am not too young..the average age in india to get married is 25...
2.We have done pretty much what we have wanted to do..lived in a hostel..been a bachelor in a crazy city...done most if not all of the things that an average guy does...whats going to change in 2 years so drastically thats not already the case now...
3.I am ready..I know it...you can never hope to understand if you are ready unless you take the plunge..
4.I tend to disagree...Living with the someone you love is special..I wouldnt want to lose out on 2 years of that just bcos a bunch of friends who wanted to be politically correct said otherwise..
5.Again..I tend to disagree...i dont need to elaborate...(!!)


Hmm..What did i tell you ? Valid but twisted na...I am still unconvinced..I said "All the best for your efforts and make sure the marriage is on a sunday..i want free south indian grub..long time since i had a decent southie lunch in this 'Cosmo'" town..

the questions still bug me though..does "happiness" happen on an on-going basis ?? or is it like the cliche'd kid-toffee situation ?? is it rite to- god forbid, mess up 2 lives instead of just one at this stage ?? Are we ready to handle both-work and home ?? KIDS !!! Dont even lemme go there ! A house...A car...independence lost...priorities changed...no more booze at home !

Are we ready for :
"why are you walkin' in at 2:00 AM ? I was waiting all along to have dinner with you.."
"oh i'm sorry dear..we had a party and i had dinner already..Am So sorry.."

SHIT ! I dont think I can live with that guilt...atleast not rite now...

I think we have the right to mess up only our lives rite alone and be irresponsible with it...I dunno..
Whoa ! too many fundas na...
i think i am better off when i shut up,booze and not think...
Hmm...the more u "think" the more u complicate it and the more complicated it actually gets..and therefore inconsequential after a point..which was pretty much the case before u started to "think"..so why "think" ??

something to "think" about huh ?
;-)